Our ‘Shoulds’ had tyrannize us into responding in ways that make us less effective and more miserable. Our deeply held beliefs on the one hand build moral fibre and our resilience, on the other hand not being aware how sub consciously adopted beliefs debilitate and misdirect response to an environmental stimulus can prove damaging to our capacity of leadership In other words, imbibing a little less of Bertie Wooster and a little more of Alfie Dolittle from My Fair Lady ( who seems to have had very few ‘shoulds’ except having fun in life ) would further being a more effective human being and an inspiring leader.